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Wishing

Posted on Aug 30, 2010 in Featured | 3 comments

Wishing

This spring I took an e-course called Mondo Beyondo. It was about dreaming big. That is, it was about the things we wish for – how do we figure out what we want and how do we go after them? Among the books on the recommended reading list were The Alchemist and The Wishing Year, neither of which I had read before. The Wishing Year in particular spoke to me because the woman who wrote it, Noelle Oxenhandler was a bit of a skeptic. I loved Mondo Beyondo and I got a lot of out The Alchemist too, but sometimes there was this one little thing that rubbed me the wrong way. It’s hard for me to believe the claim that the Universe wants us to achieve our dreams and if we just wish hard enough, it will happen. I mean, every single day there are millions of people wishing very hard that they weren’t living with drought, or famine, or war, or genocide. I refuse to believe that the Universe doesn’t care to remedy those situations but is willing to help Noelle Oxenhandler in her dream of “a house, a man, and [her] soul” or me with my (comparatively) insignificant dreams. I appreciated The Wishing Year because Oxenhandler raised those same concerns. Yet, she still became a believer in wishing (or dreaming) and in fact, she even achieved her dreams for a house, a man and renewed spirituality. Mondo Beyondo (and the above mentioned books) turned me into a believer too, but not because I ended up convinced that the Universe does care about our dreams. What I gleaned from all the reading and thinking I did on the subject was that wishing makes dreams come true for three reasons: The act of wishing or dreaming, particularly if associated with some ritual like writing the Mondo Beyondo list or following the varied and elaborate steps in The Wishing Year, clarifies what you want and puts it front and center for you. To achieve your dreams, you need to keep focused on them. You can’t let them get swept into the corner. Having a clear intention is the first part of taking a step towards a goal. Making a wish often involves an element of release or letting go, closing it up in a box or forgetting about it. This is the part about believing that there are outside forces involved. For me, this doesn’t mean that there will be divine intervention. It means that part of making a wish or daring to dream is to allow it to unfold. Because we can’t foresee the future and the ways we may change as we proceed towards our dreams, it’s important that we give our dreams some wiggle room. You may get exactly what you wished for despite the fact that when you wished it you couldn’t even see clearly what it would look like. You have to leave some of it open to chance (or divine intervention, if that’s what you prefer). The reasons some people seem so good at having their dreams come true is because they change their attitude. They approach life ready to say yes, to try new things and they go about their day with a sharp eye for opportunity (signs or omens if you read The Alchemist). They are willing to change their lives. They don’t let fear or negativity hold them back and because they take more risks, they get more rewards. To me, wishing involves all the things we call we prayer, asking the Universe, certain meditations, superstitions and if they are heartfelt and accompanied by the attitude change and willingness to be flexible that I described above, I really believe that all of these forms of wishing carry power and beauty with them. Do you make wishes? Do you believe in wishes and dreams coming true? Has it happened to you? What do you wish for right...

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Leaping

Posted on Apr 6, 2010 in Eliza Brownhome, Featured | 8 comments

Leaping

The summer of 2002 everyone must have thought I went crazy. I started dating a friend (who was also the ex-boyfriend of a long-time friend of mine) and by the end of the summer, we announced that we were getting married in September. When I called my parents to tell them I was getting married they didn’t even know I was seeing anyone. That was only half of it. We also bought a 1984 Bluebird schoolbus and told everyone that we were going to convert it and live in it, in the middle of Vancouver. We owned it for a year and were slowly trying to do the conversion on the weekends and not making much progress. We thought if we moved into it, our progress would be quicker. My older sister and her family were moving to Vancouver around that time and we came up with the idea to try to find a house for them to rent where we could park the bus in their backyard. We thought we would subsidize their rent for two years before looking for somewhere else. We started keeping our eyes open for good potential houses. As we went about our business in the city, there was one house that we always noticed had the perfect space. It was on a corner, backing on to a huge green park with a lake complete with swimming beach and where the farmer’s market is held on Saturdays. On Sunday nights, there is firespinning in the park and every summer there is a lantern festival that attracts 10,000 people. The park is in the middle of metro Vancouver in a vibrant diverse multi-cultural neighbourhood. The yard was perfect and had just the right space for a 40′ long bus. My brother-in-law came to Vancouver to house hunt for his family and one evening, after dinner, we drove by the house just to give him an idea of the kind of sweet space we were dreaming of. A few days later, Stewart came back from his search with the classifieds and grinned “You’ll never guess what house I just looked at!” We couldn’t believe our luck that the house was actually for rent! We went to the open house with the landlord and there were a lot of other contenders. The rental market in Vancouver has been tight for a few years now and the house was reasonably priced. We thought it best to be upfront about our plans to park a 40′ bus on the property rather than ending up with a mad landlord on our hands later. We were very worried that the landlord would never want to rent to us with our crazy idea to park a bus there. The weekend passed slowly with much hand-wringing and driving by the corner wistfully staring. At the end of the weekend, the landlord called to let us know that he had decided to take a chance on us and it was ours. We called it the Destiny House. We stayed for 5 years. We got to know all of our neighbours. We built a parking pad for the bus, redid the whole yard including putting in a 40′ long veggie garden beside the bus. I developed a close relationship with my sister who I’d never been close to as she is seven years older than I am. Both of my kids were born there and all of our children grew up more like siblings than cousins. We became fixtures in the neighbourhood and we learned the meaning of the word community. What started as a bunch of crazy spontaneous ideas in 2002 became the most magical experience. I could never have imagined such a perfect vision of this dream made into reality. I wanted to live in the bus in the city and by taking a leap of faith, it came out way better than I even envisioned it. We’ve moved on now but we’ve been having a lot of discussions with my sister and we now share the mondo beyondo dream of creating a...

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Trust

Posted on Jan 22, 2010 in Featured, Simple Living | 7 comments

Trust

  My sister and I have a plan to live together again. When we moved in July 2008, we (Aaron and I) essentially put our son and my sister’s kids through a divorce. They had grown up together, almost like siblings. The adults almost like surrogate parents, not merely aunts and uncle. Then we moved 4 hours away from them. It is still a little heartbreaking when I think of the poor kids that summer. We started making a plan to be together again. The plan is pretty detailed; more than I will get into here, now. I used to call it The Pipe Dream but lately it has become The Potential Pipe Dream in my mind. How pathetic is that? It’s not just a dream, it’s an unrealistic dream? And not even that for sure, just potentially? My sister teases me about this, and I do see the humour in it; but, it’s indicative of my state of mind. I struggle with the feasibility of The Plan in general given our financial situation but also because it feels like The Plan will make some of my other dreams and goals impossible. I’ve begun to question what it is that I really want. What am I willing to sacrifice? Where can I compromise? What is most important to me? I’ve been feeling like I just don’t know. At the beginning of January, I wrote about my hopes for this year. I wrote that I hoped 2010 would be the year where I get clarity, where I would discover my VISION. I also started exploring Mondo Beyondo. I missed out on the registration for the January session but in March I’m planning to tackle the 5 week online course in DREAMING BIG. The website explains that the course is for anyone but the more outrageous the dream the better. I asked myself: “What is my most outrageous dream?” And you know what? I know the answer. I know exactly what I want to be doing in fifteen years. This was no general statement like “I want to retire” (which isn’t my dream, by the way). I know in explicit detail what my most outrageous dream is. Without a doubt. Thinking back to Christine Kane’s Word of the Year tool, I realised that maybe VISION isn’t really the word for this year. It’s not vision that I am lacking. It’s FAITH. The reason I am waffling on The Plan is because the part of me that is scared and doubtful doesn’t believe we can do it. Here we are: three weeks into the New Year and I’m already re-evaluating my Intentions. Sheesh. So then. This might be the year called Believe. The year called Trust. The year called Faith. I still don’t know how to make The Plan a reality. Breaking it all down into manageable, bite-size, achievable goals is going to take some time. But I do know the first step is to stop calling it The Potential Pipe Dream. The second step is to Trust. This post was written to participate in the Crafting My Life series at...

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