Stay At Home Family

We believe that family and home are the cornerstones on which we build our lives, and as such, we proudly identify as a SAHF – Stay-at-Home-Family. It’s got nothing to do with self-worth, or success, or whether or not we get to call what we do work, but everything to do with living the life that WE WANT, authentically, and unapologetically.

“{The home} is a natural, organic, central, fundamental human institution, one might easily and rightly say the foundation of all other institutions. We can imagine and indeed we have had human societies without schools, without factories, without libraries, museums, hospitals, roads, legislatures, courts, or any of the institutions which seem so indispensable and permanent a part of modern life. We might someday even choose, or be obliged, to live once again without some or all of these. But we cannot even imagine a society without homes, even if these should be no more than tents, or mud huts, or holes in the ground.”

– John Holt, Teach Your Own

Home is more than having a mortgage; Home is the foundation of our village.

 

As a family, we are devoted to working toward the following:

Home • Birth

Home • School

Home • Work

Home • Made

Home • Cooked

Home • Grown

 

No, this doesn’t mean that we are hermits.

We didn’t trade in community for the home; we choose to make our home central to our daily life. Our intention is to create a life where we don’t have to spend the vast majority of our time working and learning in other places. Our family business still requires that Aaron work away from home for the time being, but because we are self-employed we have the autonomy to make our own hours, to choose when we take holidays, and to decide how hard we need to work to bring in the income we feel comfortable with.

No, this doesn’t mean that we make all of our own clothes, and grow all of our own food.

In fact, given the amount of moves we’ve just gone through, we don’t even have a garden at the moment. We are working toward a life where we provide more for ourselves within our means. We are learning to can and preserve our own food. We invested in a chest freezer (and planned our cabin to allow space for it) so that we can prioritize bulk buying local pastured-fed meat. And by local, we mean from the farmers whose backyard we live in (literally). We are planning our yard to incorporate a garden and some hens. Even without those things, we’ve always made an effort to make most of our food from scratch. But it isn’t our intention to drive ourselves crazy with unrealistic expectations of needing everything we eat or use to be handmade, organic, fair-trade, and wildcrafted. No, I like oreos like the rest of you.

No, this doesn’t mean that we are independently wealthy.

It means that we’ve consistently made choices that prioritize what’s important to us, or to use some buzzwords: to live authentically. We accepted the lower income associated with me not returning to work after our kids were born. We accepted not buying a house and finding alternate ways to live. We embraced living in a small space because it freed us from the cleaning, maintenance, and costs associated with having a large home. As a result, we don’t need as much. We have enough.