From The Mouths of Babes

Briefly May

Posted on Jun 1, 2010 in Featured, From The Mouths of Babes | 10 comments

Briefly May

What I learned in May 2010: If either of my children intends to pursue dance in the long term I have to be prepared for a ridiculous schedule of rehearsals at recital time. Rain has to be at dance 11 times over the course of two weeks, which involves hauling a squirming toddler inside and trying to corral her while wrestling Rain into dance shoes and ushering him into class in a sea of parents and preschoolers in a room the size of a closet. Run I mean, fun! Making butter from raw cream straight from the farm is not as straightforward as using store bought whipping cream, but tasty nonetheless and Rain loves kneading bread. I love working at the midwifery clinic as office administrator and when I put my mind to it, I CAN write a bio. I love Sir Ken Robinson, love his TED talks and I am currently loving his new book, The Element. I would sew a lot more if I could leave my sewing machine set up permanently. I can get a lot of sewing done while my daughter naps and having all the pieces cut and ready to go ahead of time makes sewing much more enjoyable. The weather in May is much more unpredictable than I would have predicted. Hello summer? Where are you? The steps to being awesome are easy to come up with but following them is not. Burt’s Bees avocado butter pre-shampoo hair treatment makes my hair happy. Rain is a comedian, an artist and has a flair for showmanship: Rain came out of the bathroom calling “Mom, you have to come see the treat I made you!!” I replied, “Promise me it’s not poop.” He said, “I promise.” As I entered the bathroom, he pulled a towel off the towel bar with much fanfare to reveal his masterpiece: a drawing of himself picking his nose! I can assure you that I was NOT able to keep a straight face as I explained that we do not write on the walls of our rental...

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Nagging or Something Noble

Posted on Jan 25, 2010 in Featured, From The Mouths of Babes, Parenting | 2 comments

Nagging or Something Noble

Last week, I posted another one of my son’s witticisms whereby he gave me a back-handed compliment for my nagging. I had praised Rain for having picked up the bath toys and he responded, “And I’m proud of you for asking and asking until I did it.” Truthfully, that is how it had all gone down. I had asked him several times to empty the tub. First he ignored me. Then he flat out refused. I pulled out my this-is-serious voice and told him he had to do it or else it was straight to bed. Leave it to a four-year-old to tell you he is proud of you for nagging and threatening. Essentially, Rain was jokingly pointing out that he hadn’t willfully done anything for me to be proud of. But I was proud of him. He had done a really good job despite not wanting to do it in the first place. I called the post Pride in a Job Well Done and later, I got to thinking about the whole dialogue. You know, beyond how funny it was. It occurred to me that the joke was all in whether or not I believed Rain was being sarcastic or sincere. As Aaron put it: “Either he doesn’t know what the word ‘proud’ means or else he was lying.” Maybe he wasn’t lying or joking. Maybe he was being sincere. Maybe he was telling me that I too had done my job well. Because really, if we look past the odious nature of my nagging and threatening, isn’t that my job as a parent: to ask and ask until my child learns? It’s easy to get worn down by the repetitive nature of parenting, of trying to get through to our kids, of attempting to be consistent and to follow through. Our kids are meant to learn by pushing boundaries and testing their limits. They are continually checking to see what they can get away with. I often get frustrated and I’m pretty sure I’m not the first mom to utter “You should know better!” in exasperation. My sister has pointed out to me a few times that the problem is in my expectations that it should be different. All we can really do as parents is to keep working at it: Keep reminding our kids about what is acceptable (and what isn’t) and hope that by the time our babies go out into this world they will have learned some of what we have tried to teach them. My job is just to keep showing them the way, modelling the behaviour we hope for, redirecting, and yes, asking and asking. You know the cliche about our children being our teachers? I wonder if this was another one of those cases where my son, my four-year-old, had the wisdom to see the truth in the situation. The truth that it is his job to see how far he can go and that it is my job to show him the way. I would have been happier if the whole story had involved less nagging and admittedly, a little less of me losing my temper. A couple of days later, I said to Rain “It would make me happy if you drained the tub and put the toys away” and he did it right away. I only had to ask once. Maybe we both learned a little something last week. How about you? Learned any great parenting lessons from your kids this...

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Pride in a Job Well Done

Posted on Jan 19, 2010 in From The Mouths of Babes, Uncategorized | 1 comment

Pride in a Job Well Done

Last night, I tucked Rain in and went around the quiet house tidying up the stray blocks and lone socks. On a trip into the bathroom to hang a discarded towel I noticed how neatly all the bath toys were stacked on the side of the tub. I went back to Rain’s room and said, “Rain, I just wanted to say ‘thank you’ for picking up all the bath toys and draining the tub. You did a really nice job and I’m proud of you for tidying up the bathroom after your bath.” He replied, “And I’m proud of you for asking and asking until I did it.”

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When I Grow Up…

Posted on Jan 2, 2010 in From The Mouths of Babes | 1 comment

When I Grow Up…

Some of the interesting and amusing future occupations of the fabulous Mr. Rain Wild: Midwife Inventor Santa “Mailman who helps other mailmen who have sore legs or broken legs” Surfer Diver That’s my boy! Do you know how happy and proud I am that this list doesn’t have anything lame like fireman* on it? I’m sure there are more to come. I will definitely update this post as I hear them. *No disrespect to firemen – it’s just not very original.

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How Poetic

Posted on Nov 19, 2009 in From The Mouths of Babes | 1 comment

How Poetic

I was tucking Rain into bed. With an arm around my neck, he said, “Mom, do you feel sweet sorrow?” Surprised and taken aback, I replied, “No, do you feel sweet sorrow Rain?” Solemnly: “Yes. Yes I do. Because I miss our friends in Vancouver.” Gotta love that Magic Treehouse CD for introducing my 4 year old to Shakespeare.

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Q & A

Posted on Sep 23, 2009 in From The Mouths of Babes | 3 comments

Q & A

Rain has recently discovered that he can ask questions. This is a slightly more sophisticated version of the WHY? phase that all kids go through (some more than others – yes, I’m thinking of you, Alexis). Here is a sampling* of his questions from the last day: How do you kill a robot? What are chick peas made of? How do you catch a raccoon? What does suspicious mean? How do you make earth worms die? How do you make kale worser and worser? How do you kiss a tree? Why is your nose bendy? What is skin made of? How do you spell pajamas anyways? Do spiders have ears? *yes, by sampling I mean that there were MANY MANY more that I didn’t manage to write...

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