Comments on: Balancing Needs When Baby Trumps Mama

By: panic disorder symptoms

panic disorder symptoms — Mon, 17 Jan 2011 20:57:14 +0000

This piece is very heartwarming. It aided in the things I think about most in my everyday life. Inspiration has always been the best thing that keeps us going.

By: bluebirdmama

bluebirdmama — Sat, 15 Jan 2011 05:43:29 +0000

I know what you mean. I wonder if that might work. Our house is small and it would be better than me just getting more and more anxious/agitated. Thanks for the suggestion.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 05:36:10 +0000

I'm sorry, the previous was supposed to be a comment, not a reply to your comment. .-= Katherine´s last blog ..Gingerbread Marble Run =-.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 05:35:17 +0000

Maybe this is a silly thing to say, and quite a bit after your post, but have you ever considered ear plugs? I am also very noise sensitive, but I usually, thankfully! have relatively quiet children. But if I am in a noisy environment I find it helps me keep calm if I have ear plugs, and it doesn’t at all mean that I can’t hear things. I can hear people talking just fine, but it reduces the level of everything to where it doesn’t make me cringe. You could think of them as reverse-hearing-aids. I’m trying to carefully say that it is *not* tuning out your son, just reducing his volume to the point where you can actually ‘hear’ him rather than tensing up and trying to block out the overwhelming ‘noise’.
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By: Mama, That’s Too, Too Boring!

Mama, That’s Too, Too Boring! — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 05:28:45 +0000

[...] Balancing Needs When Baby Trumps Mama — Alison at BluebirdMama wonders how her child’s need for noise and energy balances out against her need for quiet and space. (@childbearing ) [...]

By: the Grumbles

the Grumbles — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 14:54:10 +0000

I would say it’s tricky to find time for yourself. It’s so easy to put the needs of your child first. At least for me, I would much rather maker personal sacrifices to do what’s best for the boy rather than what I need. But, that doesn’t last long before you’re doing yourself a disservice, you need time for yourself, which is exactly what you are talking about with the 8th principle.

I try to mostly just do things my son’s way during the day, and then thank god for bedtime! I can have some quieter more relaxing “me” type time. Even if that requires me to stay up a little later than I would prefer, it’s a requirement.
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By: Candace @ NaturallyEducational and @Mamanista

Candace @ NaturallyEducational and @Mamanista — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 02:31:57 +0000

Hard to say without being there…but I suspect he sees your requests that he play in his room or outside alone as “sending him away” which makes him need to feel more close to you.

Do you do these at predictable times of day? So that it falls into a natural rhythm? Is there something he really likes to do? Is there someone else to whom he is closely attached who could spend some time with him?
.-= Candace @ NaturallyEducational and @Mamanista´s last blog ..Yarn Easter Egg Ornament =-.

By: Erin W. / Beatnik Momma

Erin W. / Beatnik Momma — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 13:21:43 +0000

I have this exact problem. Gracie is 5 and she has a tendency to get very loud, very quickly. I find that when I’m at my wit’s end or if I’ve already jumped that cliff and spoken more harshly than I intended, I will tell Gracie that, “Momma needs a time out. I have behaved/am about to behave badly and I need some space to find the way to react appropriately.” The first few times it really stunned her. She wondered if I would stand in the corner or what, so she just kind of silently sat in the room watching what I did.
And while I don’t go stand in the corner like she expected I might, I did take the time to bask in the quiet and fill my mind with it as much as possible. It doesn’t always work for as long as I’d like it to, it does tend to serve its purpose for at least an hour or so.
.-= Erin W. / Beatnik Momma´s last blog ..How Do You Deal? =-.

By: Sarah @ OneStarryNight

Sarah @ OneStarryNight — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 11:13:38 +0000

Really all I can do is try and carve out some "me" time every day which generally means being in the bedroom (alone if possible or with a sleeping baby). Thankfully my boyfriend will play with my 8yr old son (who is high energy) so that I can get 5min-1hour where I don't have to be "ON" if that makes sense? .-= Sarah @ OneStarryNight´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday: At the Chicago Botanic Garden =-.

By: Mrs Green @ littlegreenblog.com

Mrs Green @ littlegreenblog.com — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 07:41:46 +0000

Are you sure I didn’t write this post LOL! We have the same ‘highly sensitive’ personalities – DD is LOUD and needs adoration, I Need space and time out.

I find it easier as she gets older, MUCH easier because I can explain to her that I need my time out otherwise I’m grouchy and she totally gets that now. So put that message in now; it’s not a judgement or a way to make them feel guilty, but you’re empowering them with knowledge and showing them that it’s ok as an adult to ask for your needs to be met too. You’re also teaching them how to take care of themselves as they grow older.

As they mature they will see for themselves that they get much more of what THEY need if you get what YOU need too. You’ll be more emotionally present, more energised and more FUN if you get your personal space. There’s nothing wrong with that; you just have different requirements to function at your optimum.

Another thing; if DD needs to be loud; I ask her if she could go to her room to be loud or outside in the garden. Or I say that I’ll go upstairs until she’s finished being loud. Or I’ll turn up the music and we’ll dance together; it dissipates some energy and it’s something I CAN tolerate that is a loud thing to do!
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